Insights about gender equality

Gender equality- a topic that is often discussed widely, but practices are barely followed. When we hear this term, we end up thinking about women and their rights, but gender equality doesn't only mean advocating for females. It includes a platform where both men and women are treated equally with partial opportunities and rights. 

Unfortunately, our Nepalese society is still backward to bring such evolution and lead by patriarchal norms. Here, ladies are always bounded within the four walls of a house and responsible for all the household chores. Cooking and washing are basic life activities, but these are treated as a gender role. Let's raise voice against such malpractices and bring changes within our homes. I know it's a vast process, but at least instead of tempting ourselves, we can make a little effort to change the stereotypes.

1. Still, many people, even women, presume that this is even not a problem and take it normally. First of all, we should realize that discrimination among gender is definitely a huge issue that needs to be emphasized.

2. The change begins at home and from you. In this lockdown, everyone is at home and free. So, let's ask and counsel our male family members to carry out or help in minor household chores and make them realize that being a housewife is not a piece of cake. 

3. Asking your brothers to wash dishes and cook foods can be a beneficial step to teach them that girls are not only responsible for such activities, and maybe in the future, they can be supportive for their wives.

4. Remember that if you are a lady and asking for equality, you should also be responsible for earning and provide a companion for your family expenses. The way where performing household stuff is not only a woman duty; similarly, managing finances is also not a male responsibility. Hence, the the dual-income family should be promoted.

5. Discussion about these things in a family is essential to bring gender equality inside the home. After all, everything has a solution, if talked peacefully.

Let's not forget that a happy family is the one where everyone's work and opinions are appreciated and respected. If you are a female, raise voice to avoid victimizing yourself, and if you are a male, join hands to help your sisters, mother, and wife in this lockdown.

Please copy and share if you feel you are a responsible youth citizen and want to bring positive transformations around you.

15 REASONS WHY IT IS OKAY TO FAIL

When you conjure up the most biggest failure of your life in your mind, you might get goosebumps and start feeling pessimistic. This is predominately because society has  presumed failure in a negative perspective and has closed their eyes to observe its brighter side. So, if you have failed recently or are even suffering through it currently, I want to offer you a glimmer of hope and positivity to let you know why it is okay to fail, no matter what anyone else tells you. And here we go.

 

1.Failure let you recognize your true potential

The art of failure ultimately paves your way to introduce yourself with your true worth in a more deeper sense.  After you fail, you would try again with  more harder efforts and try to unleash your actual potential. Consequently, the capacity and strength that was deep hidden inside you would find their way to bloom brightly.

2. You will get a next chance.

Let me tell you the most preponderant benefit of failing is to collect courage to stand up again. In other words, it provides a person noteworthy opportunities to stand up again with more reliable approach. So, be optimistic and consider your failure as a second chance. Remember, not everyone in life get such another attempt.

3. You will know the complexity of your goal.

Truly said " Not everything in life is easy to achieve". Also the achievement that is acquired without effort is not worthful. An intrepid walker who has failed badly will try to find out the deep reason why he failed. On this way, he will recognise the actual difficulty of the goal. Understand that, if you are not being able to climb up towards your success ,despite hard efforts, then it is not a piece of cake. Unknowingly or knowingly you are underestimating it's complexity. Hence, after falling down only, you will able to recognise the depth of your objective and it's darker side.

4. Failure makes you learn to fight with your hurdles.

 After failure, you reflect on life, developing new strategies to push through present day obstacles, finding new ways to approach old problems. Therefore, in this course of time, one can collect enough experience about fighting with life complications, which can be overwhelmingly beneficial in their later stage of life.

5.You will find out your true company.

It is often disheartening to see the people who claim to be your so called "true friends" wear the mask of enmity and jealousy behind your back. Fortunately, your unsuccessfulness would erase all your fake followers, after they stop getting benefits from you. Luckily, your state of failure will let you to recognise people and find your exact well wishers, who will be always by your side during your hard and crucial times.

6. Failure makes you alone and independent.

No Matter how much myriad of loved ones you have, you always have to taste the bitterness of your unsuccessfulness alone and find your way. After losing all fake friends, loneliness will surround you entirely. But don't worry , today or tomorrow you will definitely learn to survive alone by building up your strength. Hence, failure teaches you to fight your battle ceaselessly being alone and independent. 

7. Failure makes you more stronger.

 After walking through all Stroms of problems and several criticism that failure invites, ultimately the more stronger state of a mind and heart can be built. Just take an example of a diamond, which undergoes an extreme pressure and finally shines brightly. Similarly, all these hurdles will make you a strong person during your way.

8. You will learn to face critism.

The tag of failure undoubtedly, attracts enough attention towards you by the people around you. They continuously try to put more salt on your wound, in the name of your unfulfilled goal. Thus, after going through all this people's bullshits comments, you will learn to face them, if you are a strong-willed people.

9. It let you to discover your actual passion.

Sometimes in life, it happens like if you are not being able to achieve something, in spite of 

trying hard, then it might not be your cup of tea. You might be exploring your skills on the wrong field and this recognition will not light up ,unless you explore all of your possibilities.so, it's completely alright if your failure is creating a correct way for you.

10. keep you awake and motivated.

If you are highly thirsty for your success, then no matter how much time you fall, you will always get up again. That experience of failure is like a reminder button of your mobile phone, which  always keep you alert and awake. Along with this, the feeling of restlessness will always surround you, showering you with full of motivation between the way of your failure and success.

11. You will learn to push yourself.

  After failing several times, you would obviously learn to get up and encourage yourself to give an another shot. At that phase, you would be your own mentor and motivater. Also, next time, you would encourage yourself to try with more efforts by rectifying all your previous mistakes. And the efforts credit goes to the one and only, that's your failure.

12. You can encounter your fears.

 Undeniably, everyone get butterflies in their stomach, while tyring something new. After attempting several times, that fear no longer will follow you because you would have got already habituated about the proccess. Thus, remember, you can not encounter your major fears without failure.

13. You substantially learn more from failure than success.

 Direct success is pretty boring for some people, who loves challenges, as it does not provide platform for them to learn something new. So, if you do not walk into the way of preaching stones, you will never learn to endure such pain and collect essential experience, which can be extensively beneficial in your future.

14. You can be a better version of yourself after failing.

 It is intuitively obvious that nobody is born prefect from the womb. Everyone learn and grow through mistakes - we are humans after all, not robots. All these valuable lessons from mistakes mould a man into a better person, by imparting the knowledge and experience of hard work, patience and strong determination.

15.  Success tastes far sweeter after major failures.

 Just compare the taste of a fruit that you brought from the market and the one, which you had planted in your own garden. Undoubtedly, you get more satisfaction while eating the fruit grown by your own effort. The same case applies for the success accquired after several failure. Although falling down is disheartening, trust me when you reach to the ultimate goal after endless sacrifice and struggle,there's almost no greater feeling. It's the entire culmination of all your efforts and struggles, mental wrangling, overall weariness and physical tiredness that makes the success feel so wonderful. Hence, failure is an indispensable factor to experience such feeling in life.

So guys, stop tempting your mind because of your failure. Instead of that, just pick yourself up, reenergize yourself and give it an another try, which was done by the most successful people in our history. Remember one day when you would sieze your goal, people will not remember about how many times you failed, but only your success story. Just be cool and keep moving, no matter what other bullshits people say

Learning from the sky

 Last evening when I was glancing at the sky, something cooked up in my mind with the mesmerizing view of the sky.

Let me share with you my reflections.

The eye-catching and attractive sky that we see once in a blue moon, particularly during sunny days, has gone through a lot of hurdles just to appear that way. Firstly, it should face the challenge of changing sun direction, which directly affects the complete shape of the perfectly formed clouds, making them fragmented and scattered into innumerable pieces and secondly, should tolerate the high flame of scorching sunlight. Despite all these obstacles, the sky never terminates to move and play their indispensable role in nature. It's 24 hours working time provides a remarkable platform for the sun to rise and set during daylight and for the illuminating moon and stars to twinkle dazzlingly in the night time. 

 So, my point is if the sky never gets exhausted to exist and fulfill its responsibility encountering a myriad of inconveniences, then why do we lose with our life complications? 

Everything persistent in our atmosphere has something essential to teach us. However, it depends upon how active and enthusiastic learner you are. Here, let's just shed light on the valuable lessons that we can acknowledge from the colossal sky. 

First of all, the sky is limitless, having no specific boundary, neither any starting point nor ending note. Similar to the sky, and it's an undefinable horizon, our dreams should also not have any threshold. In other words, humans should plant the fruit of their ambitions beyond their capability and imagination, challenging themselves to achieve as much higher as they can. If not, they can never be proportional to the ongoing competition of the world; hence, they live life miserably with unfulfilled desires. So, collects your guts and stand up fiercely to challenge the sky with your success.

Moreover, the physical appearance of the sky is not always constant. What I mean is, many positive views take place such as soothing rain, breathtaking sunrise, fluffy clouds formation, amazing northern lights, glittering stars, glowing moon. On the contrary, there are also some fearsome events like lightning, thunderstorms, cyclones, hailstones, and so on. Similarly, our life has both positive and negative turns in various steps. Sometimes, we rejoiced with an abundance of happiness and heart-pleasing moments and some other period; we have to encounter with sorrows, complicated situations, and difficulties. Despite the curve of our mood witness several fluctuations, we should keep on going and do not forget that there is always daylight next morning after the dusk. 

Another point is that the way the entire universe is jointly together, we are also not alone in our life. The sky is always companioned by stars, moon, clouds, fogs, and sunshine all the time. Likewise,   our beloved one and kith and kin are with us in every sphere of life. All we have to do is appreciate them and value their existence, showering our unconditional love and care. Lastly, don't forget, a real state of happiness cannot be achieved unless you have your loved one around you. So, keep learning from the sky to make your life easier and fruitful.  

Thanks for reading...

Be patience!! Good things take time😊😊

 Well said! The time is yet to come, and she also waiting for the time when her fluffy wings would cover the whole world, and her dreams would shine in the most brightest way that even the moon needs to come down to her knees to praise her struggle..But undoubtedly, it was not a piece of cake..The lady had to travel to the extra miles, stepping out of sharp stones in her journey.Not only debating with her own mental issue was a herculean task for her , but also facing the criticizing patriarchal society was her enormous hurdle. 

On the other hand, the incredible pain of her broken heart was adding fuel to the fire of failure that let her soul go down in dumps.

Despite several criticism and attempts of failure, the fierce and bold lady did not give up on her dreams and kept moving ahead..Each second was utilized as a noteworthy opportunity by burning  the midnight oil in order to find a small light that can remove darkness from her world...wait wait! Let's talk about what a small light means here..To exemplify, she was struggling to find happiness for her mother, a bright future for her siblings, and a supporting shoulder for her dad.. and she knew that the day would come when her patience and hard work will bear beautiful fruit in the path of her success.

So, my dear ladies, be an intrepid walker in your journey, make yourself stand in your legs, no matter how many times you fall down. Hold your chest tight and pass through all the storms of your life..

Of course, good things take time, where everything is relied on a hope that one day your broken soul will find a way to love, one-day things will be in your favor, one  day you can rest soundly in your mother's lap and that one day is no longer far😊